Destruction of the Family

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Lesson 5

• Destruction of the Family

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1 Tim 21-4 1 First, I tell you to pray for all
people, asking God for what they need and being
thankful to him. 2 Pray for rulers and for all
who have authority so that we can have quiet and
peaceful lives full of worship and respect for
God. 3 This is good, and it pleases God our
Savior, 4 who wants all people to be saved and
to know the truth.
Do you pray America?
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America is great because she is good, and if
America ever ceases to be good, she will cease to
be great.
Psa. 917 The wicked return to the grave, all
the nations that forget God.
1835
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How To Destroy America

• Destroy Her Faith in God (Christianity).
• Destroy Biblical marriage/divorce.
• Destroy the Biblical role of govt.
• Christians remain silent/retreat

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How To Destroy America
The philosophy of the schoolroom in one
generation will be the philosophy of government
in the next. Abraham Lincoln

• Destroy Her Faith in God (Christianity).
• Destroy Biblical marriage/divorce.
• Destroy the Biblical role of govt.
• Christians remain silent/retreat

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How To Destroy America
The philosophy of the schoolroom in one
generation will be the philosophy of government
in the next. Abraham Lincoln

• Destroy Her Faith in God (Christianity).
• Destroy Biblical marriage/divorce.
• Destroy the Biblical role of govt.
• Christians remain silent/retreat

Judg 210-11 10 After that whole generation had
been gathered to their fathers, another
generation grew up, who knew neither the Lord nor
what he had done for Israel. 11 Then the
Israelites did evil in the eyes of the Lord and
served the Baals.
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Two of the best known school books in the history
of American education were the 18th century New
England Primer and the 19th century McGuffey
Readers.
It is estimated that at least 120 million copies
of McGuffey's Readers were sold between 1836 and
1960.
Henry Steele Commager, Jr. Columbia
University Historian, educator and scholar (also
taught at Harvard University of Chicago) wrote
in the intro. For a paperback reissue
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What is most
impressive in the McGuffey
readers is the morality. From the First
Reader through the
Sixth, the morality is
pervasive and insistent, there is rarely a
page but addresses itself
to some moral
problem, points up some moral lesson
industry,sobriety, thrift,
propriety, modesty,
punctuality these were essential virtues
and those who practiced
them were sure of successThe world of McGuffeys
was a world where no one questioned the truths of
the Bible, or their relevance to every day
conduct. That our children, today, are better
taught than were their luckless predecessors is
generally conceded, though we are sometimes
puzzled that we have not produced a generation of
statesman as distinguished as the founding
fathers.
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What is most
impressive in the McGuffey
readers is the morality. From the First
Reader through the
Sixth, the morality is
pervasive and insistent, there is rarely a
page but addresses itself
to some moral
problem, points up some moral lesson
industry,sobriety, thrift,
propriety, modesty,
punctuality these were essential virtues
and those who practiced
them were sure of successThe world of McGuffeys
was a world where no one questioned the truths of
the Bible, or their relevance to every day
conduct. That our children, today, are better
taught than were their luckless predecessors is
generally conceded, though we are sometimes
puzzled that we have not produced a generation of
statesman as distinguished as the founding
fathers.
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Gen 220-24 23 The man said, "This is now bone of
my bones and flesh of my flesh she shall be
called 'woman,' for she was taken out of
man." 24 For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be united to his wife, and
they will become one flesh.
One man One woman For life
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Marriage The act
of uniting a man and a
woman for life the legal union of a man
and woman for life.
Marriage is a contract
both civil and religious, by which the
parties live
together in mutual affection and fidelity,
till death shall separate
them. Marriage was
instituted by God himself for the purpose of
preventing the
promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for
promoting domestic felicity, and or securing
the maintenance and education of children.
1828
Websters New World Dictionary, 3rd ed. 1988
1. the state of being married relation between
husband and wife married life wedlock
matrimony 4. any close or intimate union.
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Marriage The act
of uniting a man and a
woman for life the legal union of a man
and woman for life.
Marriage is a contract
both civil and religious, by which the
parties live
together in mutual affection and fidelity,
till death shall separate
them. Marriage was
instituted by God himself for the purpose of
preventing the
promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for
promoting domestic felicity, and or securing
the maintenance and education of children.
Florida Marriage Protection Amendment BALLOT SUMMA
RY This amendment protects marriage as the legal
union of only one man and one woman as husband
and wife and provides that no other legal union
that is treated as marriage or the substantial
equivalent thereof shall be valid or recognized.
1828
Websters New World Dictionary, 3rd ed. 1988
1. the state of being married relation between
husband and wife married life wedlock
matrimony 4. any close or intimate union.
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Hebrews 134 Marriage should be honored by all,
and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will
judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
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The State of Our Unions The Social Health of
Marriage in America 2004
MARRIAGE Key Finding Marriage trends in recent
decades indicate that Americans have become less
likely to marry, and the most recent data show
that the marriage rate in the United States
continues to decline.
DIVORCE Key Finding The American divorce rate
today is more than twice that of 1960, but has
declined slightly since hitting the highest point
in our history in the early 1980s. For the
average couple marrying in recent years, the
lifetime probability of divorce or separation
remains close to 50 percent.
UNMARRIED COHABITATION Key Finding The number of
unmarried couples has increased dramatically over
the past four decades, and the increase is
continuing. Most younger Americans now spend some
time living together outside of marriage, and
unmarried cohabitation commonly precedes marriage.
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Introduction In this years essay, David Popenoe
argues that long-term trends point to the gradual
weakening of marriage as the primary social
institution of family life. More Americans today
are living together, marrying at older ages or
not at all, and rearing children in cohabiting or
solo parent households. Overall, the U.S. trends
are following the far-advanced trends toward
nonmarriage in Northwestern European nations,
albeit at a slower and more uneven pace.
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Introduction Popenoe attributes the weakening of
marriage to a broad cultural shift away from
religion and social traditionalism and toward
faith in personal independence and tolerance for
diverse life styles otherwise known as "secular
individualism." This cultural shift is a central
feature of modern societies and therefore
unlikely to be reversed.
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How Abortion Became Law
Past lesson

• Darwinian evolution in public education
• Alfred Kinsey 60s Sexual revolution
• No Fault Divorce Law
• Feminist Movement / Planned Parenthood
• Media/Entertainments attack on the Traditional
  Family Christian values
• Activist Judges

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Until 1969, every state in the Union had a
fault-based system of divorce laws. (The lone
exception was Oklahoma, which introduced no-fault
divorce in 1953.) Under the fault-based system, a
plaintiff (the aggrieved party in the divorce
action) had to charge the defendant with certain
actions that constituted grounds for divorce.
These grounds might include mental cruelty,
physical abuse, desertion, adultery,
imprisonment, alcohol or drug addiction, or
insanity. Without showing grounds for divorce, no
divorce could be granted.
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Is it lawful to divorce for every cause?
No
What does Jesus say?

• Matt. 532
• I say to you that everyone who divorces his
  wife, for any reason except sexual immorality
  causes her to commit adultery

• Matt. 195 leave father and mother and cleave to
  his wife
• Matt. 196what God joinedlet no man separate
• Matt. 199 divorce only for sexual immorality

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Is Jesus Word Final?

• The Jesus who modern research has
  placed in his social environment is not
  able to offer completely adequate
  moral guidance for todayCould a
  simple carpenter in Galilee 2,000
  years ago have uttered the final word on human
  relationship? Is there nothing more to be
  learned? Can we regulate marriage today with all
  its complex problems by insisting that man shall
  not put asunder what God hath joined together?
• (J. H. Randall, Religion
  in the Modern World, 1929)

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Florida Law
61.052  Dissolution of marriage. (1)  No
judgment of dissolution of marriage shall be
granted unless one of the following facts
appears, which shall be pleaded generally
(a)  The marriage is irretrievably broken.
(b) Mental incapacity of one of the parties.
However, no dissolution shall be allowed unless
the party alleged to be incapacitated shall have
been adjudged incapacitated according to the
provisions of s. 744.331 for a preceding period
of at least 3 years.
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Floridadivorce.com

• PROCEDURE
• How can I get a dissolution of marriage (divorce)
  in Florida?
• In general one party needs to testify that
  the marriage is "irretrievably broken" in other
  words it cannot be put back together through
  marriage counseling or any other means. Generally
  speaking, few people ever contest whether the
  marriage is irretrievably broken. Thus, in
  general you can get a divorce simply by asking
  for one and there is little that your spouse can
  do about it. Also, one party to the marriage must
  be a Florida resident for the six month period
  immediately preceeding the filing of the petition
  for divorce. There is nothing else that you need
  to prove to get a divorce in Florida. This is
  different than some states where for example you
  have to prove adultery or violence or some other
  grounds.

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Floridadivorce.com

• PROCEDURE
• How can I get a dissolution of marriage (divorce)
  in Florida?
• In general one party needs to testify that
  the marriage is "irretrievably broken" in other
  words it cannot be put back together through
  marriage counseling or any other means. Generally
  speaking, few people ever contest whether the
  marriage is irretrievably broken. Thus, in
  general you can get a divorce simply by asking
  for one and there is little that your spouse can
  do about it. Also, one party to the marriage must
  be a Florida resident for the six month period
  immediately preceeding the filing of the petition
  for divorce. There is nothing else that you need
  to prove to get a divorce in Florida. This is
  different than some states where for example you
  have to prove adultery or violence or some other
  grounds.

Over 80 of no-fault divorces are unilateral.
This means that one party to the divorce objects
to the marriage ending and no-fault laws take
away that parties control over whether or not
they can save their marriage.
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Until 1969, every state in the Union had a
fault-based system of divorce laws. (The lone
exception was Oklahoma, which introduced no-fault
divorce in 1953.) Under the fault-based system, a
plaintiff (the aggrieved party in the divorce
action) had to charge the defendant with certain
actions that constituted grounds for divorce.
These grounds might include mental cruelty,
physical abuse, desertion, adultery,
imprisonment, alcohol or drug addiction, or
insanity. Without showing grounds for divorce, no
divorce could be granted.
California's no-fault divorce law was drafted by
Assemblyman James A. Hayes and signed into law in
1969 by then-Governor Ronald Reagan. The rest of
the nation quickly followed California's lead. By
1974, forty-five states had passed no-fault
statutes of their own. By 1985, every state in
the union was a no-fault state.
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Excerpt from Michael Reagan's Book TWICE
ADOPTEDChapter 2, A Broken World, pp. 42-44
Dad later said that he regretted signing the
no-fault divorce bill and that he
believed it was one of the
worst mistakes he ever made in
office. That law set in motion one of the most
damaging social experiments in the history of
our nation.
"Divorce is where two adults take everything that
matters to a child---the child's home, family,
security, and sense of being loved and
protected--and they smash it all up, leave it in
ruins on the floor, then walk out and leave the
child to clean up the mess." p. 37
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May 27, 2005 Connecting the Dots by Rebecca
Hagelin
"In 1950, for every hundred children born that
year 12 entered a broken family
4 were born out of wedlock 8 suffered
the divorce of their parents. By the year
2000, that number had risen fivefold, and for
every one hundred children born 60
entered a broken family 33 born out of
wedlock 27 suffering the divorce of their
parents."
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What Does God Think About Divorce?
Malachi 216 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God
of Israel,
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August 28, 2000 Divorce Ignoring the cost by
Edwin J. Feulner, Ph.D. What would you say if I
told you there's a sure-fire way to reduce child
poverty, make kids more likely to stay in school
and less likely to experiment with sex, and cause
crime rates to drop even further?
A growing body of social science research shows
that marriage is the best antidote to a host of
societal ills and that divorce is more harmful to
children than most people think.
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Some Hope?
"I think getting a divorce should be much harder
when children are involved. . . . Divorce has
become too easy because of our permissive laws
and attitudes." She goes on to say, "The good
news is that attitudes about marriage and divorce
seem to be changing. Some states are beginning
to examine whether their divorce laws are too
lax. Grass-roots campaigns to help preserve
marriage are flourishing around the country."
William A. Galston, a professor at the University
of Maryland and a former domestic policy advisor
to President Clinton "For couples with dependent
children, we should eliminate unilateral no-fault
-- where one person can readily obtain a divorce
without the other's consent -- and return to an
updated fault-based system, with the alternative
of a five-year waiting period. And even in cases
where both parties consent, there should be
suitable braking mechanisms a mandatory pause of
at least a year for reflection, counseling and
mediation."
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Remove prohibitions and legitimize prostitution.
Make abortion a
"demand right
protected by national international law, with
unrestricted access for teenagers, and make the
non-provision of abortion a crime in all cases,
even for reasons of conscience.
United Nations
De-emphasize the role of mothers and increase
incentives for them to work rather than stay home
to care for children.
Reduce parental authority while expanding
children's rights.
Encourage governments to change religious rules
and customs that impede its efforts.
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Remove prohibitions and legitimize prostitution.
Arthur M. Schlesinger wrote in The Disuniting of
America History is to a nation... as memory
is to an individual. An individual deprived of
memory becomes disoriented and lost, not knowing
where he has been or where he is going, so a
nation denied a conception of its past will be
disabled in dealing with its present and future.
Make abortion a
"demand right
protected by national international law, with
unrestricted access for teenagers, and make the
non-provision of abortion a crime in all cases,
even for reasons of conscience.
United Nations
De-emphasize the role of mothers and increase
incentives for them to work rather than stay home
to care for children.
Reduce parental authority while expanding
children's rights.
Encourage governments to change religious rules
and customs that impede its efforts.
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No-fault divorce was pioneered by the Bolsheviks
following the Russian Revolution of 1917.
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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The 1918 Decree on Divorce eliminated the
religious marriage and the underlying
ecclesiastical law, by replacing them with civil
marriage sanctioned by the state. Divorce was
obtained by filing a mutual consent document with
the Russian Registry Office, or by the unilateral
request of one party to the court.
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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The Marxist position on the family is found in
The Origin of Family, Private Property, and the
State by Friedrich Engels. Its basic premise is
that the patriarchal family and its subjugation
and exploitation of women and children were born
out of private-property relationships.
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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Under socialism the abolition of private
property would result in relationships between
couples founded solely on love, and the emphasis
on collective life would diminish the importance
of the family as a unit for nurturing children.
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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The opposition to the proposed law seemed to
centre around four points (1) that it would
abolish marriage (2) that it would destroy the
family (3) that it would legalize polygamy and
polyandry (4) that it would ruin the peasants
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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The Atlantic Monthly July 1926
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
"Men took to changing wives with the same zest
which they displayed in the consumption of the
recently restored forty-per-cent vodka."  by A
Woman resident in Russia
By, Vikki Goodridge
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The Atlantic Monthly July 1926
The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
Every divorce in the villages brings with it
family discords, feuds, trials, revenge, murder,
and ruin. One must take into consideration the
backwardness of the village population, which
feels that the new law will bring polygamy,
grief, demoralization, and the dying out of the
race.
By, Vikki Goodridge
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• Romania tried it
• divorce rate tripled
• by 1960.
• 1957 abortion on
• demand
• Concern for popula-
• tion reproduction and
• future labor supplies
• Romanian Family
• Code
• 1966, abortion was
• virtually outlawed,
• a new divorce
• decree made the
• dissolution of
• marriage exceedingly
• difficult.

The triumph of bolshevism, 1918-1929
By, Vikki Goodridge
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In his book Perestroika, Mikhail Gorbachev
reflected on 70 years of Russian turmoil "We
have discovered that many of our problems -- in
childrens and young peoples behavior, in our
morals, culture and in production -- are
partially caused by the weakening of family
ties."
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In his book Perestroika, Mikhail Gorbachev
reflected on 70 years of Russian turmoil "We
have discovered that many of our problems -- in
childrens and young peoples behavior, in our
morals, culture and in production -- are
partially caused by the weakening of family
ties."
Ps 1271 Unless the Lord builds the house, its
builders labor in vain.
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When We Divorce Unlawfully

• We are covenant-breakers / liars (Rom. 131Eccl.
  54).
• We are doing what God hates and are treat- ing
  our spouse treacherously (Mal. 216).
• We are creating for ourselves and our spouse a
  stumbling block (Lk. 171 Matt. 532 1 Cor.
  75).
• We are giving the world opportunity to mock Gods
  gift of marriage (Heb. 1341 Tim. 43-6 Rom.
  223-24).
• We are discouraging and asking our brethren to
  reject us (2 Jn. 9-11 Eph. 511).